50.4 #4772 (DL Qual #2196

Jan 30, 2013 7:57 PM  Disneyland Talk Land
It's been quite some time since I have posted on here. This is a somewhat serious post and it will probably be a long one, so here it goes. Has anyone ever experienced something at Disneyland that pretty much made you not want to go anymore? Without getting into too many details, I spent a lot of time with someone at Disneyland most of last year that pretty much ended in heart break. Since then I have lost my love for the parks (hopefully temporarily). For most of my life Disneyland was always the safe and comforting zone, no matter what. For some reason this one time changed all that. I went ahead and renewed my pass today so I can try to feel that magic again. Has anyone else ever had this happen before? If so, what did you do to feel the comfort of Disneyland again?

I do know how that feels, and I have friends who have dealt with this too. I think the best thing I did was make it MY thing again. Make it something that I love without anyone else in the picture, well besides my son. I went on solo trips and felt so weird, I got on here and met tons of friends and once I truly immersed myself with MW friends I grew to LOVE Disneyland for ME, not us. So I say I'm glad you renewed now you got to slowly bring yourself back, with many people and alone. Little by little you'll love it for you and anyone who comes in your life won't destroy your love for DL because its your thing, with or without others. That's my best advice. Do I still miss trips with him...absolutely but I learned a new way to love the parks and that's just for me. - MarshaMouse  5036.0 #26 8:06PM
That was beautifully said. - DisneyGrandma  877.2 #210 8:09PM
I've experienced the same thing. I could not have said it better. - IMissDisney  1205.7 #144 8:11PM
Well said. Thank you as always for your kind and wise words. - Cinderella_Schnooks  3370.7 #42 8:31PM
Well said Marsha - debbiev  1170.8 #152 8:32PM
So glad you did! Love you! - RCmom  5235.3 #22 8:43PM
I am really happy for you Marsha. Thank you for sharing. 😘 - LaPearleNoir  1789.7 #94 8:50PM
Reason why I love this woman! You're amazing! - AshleyLynn22  791.2 #233 8:53PM
All I've got to say is the guy must have been an idiot! - MeridaFan  4243.7 #34 9:33PM
Well said! I'm happy you found your love for the parks again because I love seeing you there! 😊😘 - ZeeAlice  621.7 #328 9:52PM
If you have time you should stop by Scubasteve's and Vincent_chase's kissing booth on Valentines day! It will be set up on Main Street! They will be happy to have a customer besides LaTruce! - ShaggyNagy  89.5 #3758 8:27PM
Kisses are free but any donations are welcome!! - ShaggyNagy  89.5 #3758 8:27PM
They actually give you money - HanLostLeia  1098.3 #165 8:33PM
Yeah it's getting expensive. - ScubaSteve028  835.7 #220 8:35PM
prime example of those friendshipsπŸ˜‚ - toph  2418.2 #60 8:41PM
******LMBO! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ - MadameLeota  4203.5 #35 9:00PM
πŸ˜³πŸ‘¬ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 9:19PM
Someone should tell him to brush his teeth. - vincentchase1  672.9 #300 10:22AM
Can I choose the location of my kiss? πŸ‘ - philliprocks  1319.2 #132 11:05AM
Yeah, BESIDES LaTruce. πŸ˜‚πŸ‘ - iPoca.  916.9 #200 11:54AM
not if you are wearing that make up.^^ - vincentchase1  672.9 #300 11:58AM
LOL!! Ewwwwww, Not me. I'd rather kiss frogs. 🐸 - iPoca.  916.9 #200 12:02PM
It's going to be prob really hard at first. I remember there was a time when it was hard for me to not think about the memories I had with a certain person. Our first date was at DL and we would go pretty much every weekend for 4 years. Everywhere I went, there was something that reminded me of that time. Slowly, I started going with people that got my mind off of it and kept me happy. It was hard but I kept going. After a couple of years, I met someone new and we started creating our own memories. I got to experience that magic all over again!!! 3 years later we got engaged at the Castle and we continue to have wonderful memories at DL. You will always have those memories. There are still days I see things that take me back but it's ok. That's what life is all about...learning from our past and looking to a brighter future!! Take it easy, I promise you will be ok 😘 - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 8:46PM
I am at a complete loss for words. All of your advice and comforts has been more of a help than I imagined. Perhaps I will start trying to go on my own again. Last time I tried was shortly after it happened in October, I guess it was a bit too soon. This time I will do what I should have done a long time ago, meet up with me fellow Mouse Waiters. Thank you all so much, this means a lot to me. :) - TheAlternate  50.4 #4772 1:49AM
Yay for you! A fresh start! - MeridaFan  4243.7 #34 10:05AM
Disneyland will always be there for you. Just go with childlike enthusiasm and everything will get better. Go visit the goats next time. They always make me happy. - Sharkgrrl19  255.2 #1300 12:21PM
I know how you feel - well not so much for myself, but for my parents. My little sister had moved to Concord to be a nanny, and on New Year's she was driving home from an all-night party at church and fell asleep at the wheel and was killed. Her last words to my parents after they drove her to Concord were "Don't go to Disneyland without me!" So for many years my parents couldn't bring themselves to go to the park. When their grand kids were old enough to go to Disneyland, my parents decided it was time to do a family trip, so we all went there for Christmas. It took a while, but now they are able to enjoy their trips and just think if all of our great family memories. I hope that you can put whatever happened into a different frame and be able to enjoy the parks in a new way and make new memories that may be even better! - PrincessKristin  780.8 #240 9:14PM
I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm glad they now can now remember the good times and make more happy memories - cesium55  531.8 #390 9:20PM
😘😘😘 - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 9:21PM
Love you PK~ 😘😘 - DisneyFanZoe  1249.3 #136 9:23PM
My heart goes out to your parents and you. What a heart wrenching tragedy. I am glad the grandbabies were able to help your parents get to a place where their hearts could heal a bit in regard to disneyland. - aidensmama  340.3 #704 9:24PM
What a horrible tragedy! So sorry for your loss! - MeridaFan  4243.7 #34 9:35PM
Big GiANT ((((hug))) oh how strong of your parents to do - MarshaMouse  5036.0 #26 9:54PM
i'm sorry this has happened but gradually you'll realize things happen for a reason. i won't say you'll forget it but, you'll learn from it and move on. admin has created this vacation type atmosphere where many of us have formed friendships. i hope this place can help you find the magic, laughter, and love you had for the parks again soon. - toph  2418.2 #60 8:14PM
Nicely said. - debbiev  1170.8 #152 8:46PM
This gal right here, is awesome. Nicely said toph. 😘😘 - DisneyFanZoe  1249.3 #136 9:12PM
I'm really sorry you're hurting. Most of us can relate. Losing someone, no matter the circumstances can have a profound effect on us. I think you renewing is a great idea. Take your time, don't rush things, surround yourself with everyone else in your life that loves you, friends and family. Lean on them for support, grieve your loss and then pick yourself up and keep on going. Find new experiences, make new memories, have a ton of fun. Heck, go with MWers. Some of the best times I've had, has been with the lovable and crazy fun people I've met here. Laughing until you cry, will do you a world of good. Keep your head up! - DisneyFanZoe  1249.3 #136 9:21PM
My advice is stop having a pity party and get over yourself. Realize that when you wrap your happiness around another person you never had and don't deserve the magic. If you want to be happy go make new happy memories. - rexy650  257.7 #1277 8:10PM
Wow, kinda blunt there, huh? - lovetheland7  177.9 #2279 8:17PM
Well that's one way to put it. - ScubaSteve028  835.7 #220 8:18PM
Blunt is good... It's honest which is what was asked for. - rexy650  257.7 #1277 8:20PM
ouch, dude. ouch. - nicoleface  1752.6 #96 8:21PM
You don't even know the story. Kind of harsh to tell her to "stop having a pitty party" - dimplesdanie  1236.9 #138 8:21PM
sorry if you don't get that heartbreak is a real thing that happens to people and isn't just a pity party? hope you get some advice out of this, thealternate. - nicoleface  1752.6 #96 8:22PM
Dang who hurt you? - vincentchase1  672.9 #300 8:29PM
My advise is to disregard this comment...have a little compassion, geez!! 😏 - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 8:34PM
My comment has nothing to do with being mean. I have never been a person to let my happy anything depend on someone else. A person controls their own happiness. It sucks to have a place you share with an ex that you love but if you love it keep it. The post is out there for ALL to see and comment on even blunt people. - rexy650  257.7 #1277 8:53PM
Wow. That was harsh. - FindMeAtTheCove  237.4 #1505 8:56PM
Wow, not so cool of you to say. No one has any business telling someone else to get over the hurt. No one! People grieve in different ways and the are entitled to feel ANYWAY they want. Oh, and feelings don't just shut on and off for everyone. This is like telling someone who is hurting that they shouldn't feel bad because someone has it worse. That's like saying someone can't be happy because someone has it better. And no, blunt is not goo. Where'd you get your psych degree from, huh? - aidensmama  340.3 #704 9:11PM
You're incredibly insensitive, and frankly, your answer was rude. The OP doesn't need to get over themselves. You have no clue what the circumstances are, or how long it's been since they parted ways. What the OP is experiencing is real and pretty normal for those of us who love others. If you can't be kind when someone is hurting, it's best you say nothing. - DisneyFanZoe  1249.3 #136 9:11PM
I would normally take offense to a comment like this. However I know that when it comes to emotions its all very subjective. Though there was a harshness to your comment that was obvious and to be honest, very naive and simplistic. While I understand you were being honest (and I appreciate that), throwing out "advice" like "just get over it" isn't really how people heal from hurtful memories or moments. I think if people were able to simply turn off and on emotions like a button, no one would have any issues at all. I fully plan on making happy memories for myself at Disneyland again, that was the whole point of the post in the first place. Healing takes time, I hope you can understand that. - TheAlternate  50.4 #4772 9:50AM
Hey NIN fan. So sorry about your heartbreak. Sounds like it's time to make some wonderful new memories. Have you ever been to a MW meet up? They are quite fun. Time to start doing something for someone else- it will make you feel better. - misschurro  6362.6 #17 8:15PM
You should hang out with LaTruce, Vincent_Chase, HanLostLeia, ShaggyNaggy and I. We never get any girls. - ScubaSteve028  835.7 #220 8:23PM
That's why all of us are eating together at Lazy Dog right now. - ScubaSteve028  835.7 #220 8:26PM
Ummm... Beware of this group πŸ˜‚. Just kidding- all awesome and funny guys! - LilSterner  5503.5 #19 8:28PM
They bring laughter hanging with them that's for sure - MarshaMouse  5036.0 #26 9:10PM
Speak for yourself scuba... Lol - LaTruce  2352.9 #65 9:19PM
This is a guy!!!! πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ‘¬πŸ‘¬ - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 9:20PM
i think everyone that frequents or visits disneyland over a long period of their lifetime goes through different phases of how they enjoy the parks. as a kid it can be pure unadulterated joy. as you get older it's about going on thrill rides with your family and maybe friends. at some point it might be through taking your own kids and seeing the magic through them. for me, right now, at this phase in my life it's about being with the amazing friends i made on here and enjoying my life. when it's a solo trip it's about having me-time and getting an escape from reality. unfortunately one of your phases ended abruptly and in heartbreak. eventually, when you're ready or try to force yourself to be ready you'll move onto your next phase of enjoyment. i honestly believe as long as you don't linger and pine for those days for the rest of your life to the point where it's debilitating you'll find a new kind of joy in going to the parks. - nicoleface  1752.6 #96 8:26PM
It has happened to me as well. the 1st day going without that person I thought I couldn't live without was tough. I teared up a bit. But as time went by and more trips came, I made friends with some amazing mwers who helped me remember how it feels to be me again. and so since then, Disneyland has stayed my comfort zone. Can't live without it. And I hope you can do the same. z=] - kristian  2004.9 #79 8:11PM
I'm so impressed with all of you for finding a safe, and healthy way to heal. - DisneyGrandma  877.2 #210 8:16PM
I recently went with my first love, 8 years later, just friends. He proposed to me the first time we went, right before he left for the army. I have made many other memories there with many different people and after all these years, I was able to share MY experiences with him. Sure, every time I stand in line at BTMRR, I think of him, but hey, better to have loved and lost than to have never had the moment. Disneyland is my place. He was just lucky I shared it for a day, and a memory. - lovetheland7  177.9 #2279 8:21PM
Yes and no, my best friend had a bf that was a cm. she loves Disney. And while at Disney she found out her bf was cheating on her. But then she found her Prince. And she built new memories with me. And others. So find ur new memories. U have 356 days to build new ones! - stinkersatdland  0.1 #104606 8:22PM
You should play 7mins in heaven with buttercup. All your problems and worries will be gone in 7 mins. - vincentchase1  672.9 #300 8:33PM
Is there a charge for this ? - PinkElephants  745.7 #259 8:41PM
πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ - MissMolly  1355.3 #129 8:42PM
The fee is hugs - vincentchase1  672.9 #300 8:52PM
I went to Disneyland all the time with my ex. She even broke up with me AT Disneyland. I felt low, but you gotta get over it and replace those memories with NEW memories. The longer you hang your head, the harder it is on you, the quicker you let it go, the better you'll feel. - LaTruce  2352.9 #65 8:46PM
dang, that's harsh. how do you part ways when you're at disneyland together? - nicoleface  1752.6 #96 8:51PM
Huh? The longer and harder you hang, the quicker you'll let it go?😳 - ScubaSteve028  835.7 #220 8:52PM
I broke-up with a guy at DL once...I know...harsh!!! πŸ˜¬πŸ˜¬πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ - caramiapoohluvsbb8  4088.5 #37 8:53PM
What a jerk. Guess Disneyland isn't always magical. I'm glad you got over it - SafariSkewerJessica  1533.1 #111 8:54PM
Point is that yeah it's pretty bad what happened, but Disneyland is what you make of it... Some people don't like Disney because they go in with that kind of attitude. This is the same thing. I coulda sat there and sulked, but I said this isn't "our" Disney anymore, this isn't "her" Disney, this is MY Disney. It's hard but you'll get over it. Then you'll look back at this post and be embarrassed - that's what I did - then deleted those posts - LaTruce  2352.9 #65 9:17PM
I broke up with a guy in a letter. Actually I broke up with two boyfriends in a letter. I was dumped twice over the phone. - aidensmama  340.3 #704 9:20PM
I don't know how that feels in regards to Disneyland but I certainly understand it in other aspect and places in my life. I still struggle with these types of feelings but I try to push and force myself past them. Try to remember the positive emotions associated with Disneyland but at the same time you want to address the negative as well. Don't address the negative while at Disneyland but find a counselor, friend, or paint, or write a diary to help you confront and move past the pain. - aidensmama  340.3 #704 9:05PM
Without sounding to forward I found someone new to capture the magic again...I proposed at Disney and we spent a day after the wedding there - greenalien39  426.8 #516 9:37PM
Never let anything get in the way for your love of Disneyland. - VfxGenie  1556.7 #109 10:12AM
My ex husband and I loved disney we couldnt wait to ho on r honeymoon there.then wgen we had are daughter we couldnt wait take her.we r divorced now and I wasn't sure if I could disney again..but I went bc I Ioved it.I rem being a kid and going and when I got on main street and seen that castle I became that kid again. Don't let anyone destroy what u love it gives them power and happiness will come agsin just in new and better was.find new memories at disney there a plenty to go around - disneygirl74  6.9 #14249 10:30AM
I recently went through the same thing. It really is hard, not only at Disneyland, but in other aspects of everyday life. But it gets better everyday. Try new things. Go solo, go to meetups, try new attractions and shows. Really take advantage of everything MW has to offer. Soon it will become YOUR happy place again. Some days are great. Some days are harder than others. Pushing through the bad times makes you discover so much about yourself and you come out of it so much stronger. Sending pixie dust your way - OneDayAlice  497.4 #430 12:19PM

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