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204.4 #1563 (DL Qual #1088)
March 29, 2012 9:14 AM
Good morning my MW family. Ok I have a question for you. So tomorrow is my daughters 2nd birthday but its her dads day with her. He is going to the parks and said that I could come along. But I am thinking that might be a little weird. What do you all think? Our divorce is still a little fresh (only since November, but my choice). Any advice I would appreciate it. Thanks! And those in the parks today enjoy!
When my parents divorced they remained friends. Even when they remarried we spent all our holidays together and the step parents became friends. It made my life so much easier. I will always be grateful that they sacrificed a little comfort to put me and my sisters first. Go enjoy, your daughter will look back someday and be proud of you! - matildamouse
196.4 #1675 9:23AM
Same with my family. I agree, go and have fun for your daughter 😃 - Nicole 380.2 #353 9:38AM
Couldn't agree with this more! Sacrifice the awkward for your child's sake. And this is a good step towards keeping things friendly. Although, this only works if you two can handle being around each other. Also, he wouldn't have invited you on his day if he minded. - KylaShea 533.2 #213 9:43AM
My parents are divorced they found them self seeing they are better friends then together. I'm now 30 and they still get along my dad & stepmom, my mom & stepdad and my siblings and our families ALL go out of town together our next trip is WDW... Having parents that get along makes it easy on the child she will feel like she doesn't have to choose and all those special moments birthdays, graduation and such will be great memories that both parents are there...now there are moments you will argue but pick your battles, some times agree to disagree, and remember the child is the most important part of the new relationship you now have. - Singh2011
178.5 #1880 9:36AM
My parents stayed friends after their divorce. We would get together for birthdays and holidays. My mother even brought my father into her home and took care of him when he was dying of cancer. - ScooterMike
1959.8 #35 9:31AM
It's your daughter Birthday, she only turns 2 once. I would go. If he does try to create a scene take a deep breath, grab your daughter and walk away. Enjoy your daughter Birthday don't let your ex ruin that special moment for you. - VfxGenie
1352.8 #59 10:19AM
go. have fun. do it for the birthday girl. (not knowing the circumstances, this may be easier said) - HandMeAChurroImmaFaint
1772.8 #42 9:18AM
Yeah, I am thinking I wanna go just for her. I am just worried cause he loves to push my buttons and I don't wanna fight infront of her or at Disneyland either! - vdubmomma 204.4 #1563 9:23AM
What you just said about him right there, tells me you shouldn't go. My ex is that type, and for those few times he visited his son he always had to start something with me. - Lelundrial 339.6 #430 9:25AM
just smile if he tries, take a deep breath and exhale slowly. - HandMeAChurroImmaFaint 1772.8 #42 9:26AM
I try this every single time! Its works oh and walking away works too! ;) - vdubmomma 204.4 #1563 9:34AM
Hmm I have an exhubby like that but I try to be the better person and let those things roll off my back. Go to dl for your daughter not for him:) - supertracy 435.6 #284 10:40AM
I would never miss a Birthday with my daughter especially at Disneyland. It may be awkward but it is for her special day. And no fighting! - Deltachiq
968.9 #90 9:18AM
Yeah, with him the no fighting is easier said than done. haha - vdubmomma 204.4 #1563 9:24AM
Lol I know the feeling! - Deltachiq 968.9 #90 9:27AM
My parents divorced when I was 3. I would have loved to see pictures of us together when I was young. You are both still her family. I hope you go if you think it can be drama free. Have a blast if you do! - PrincessDuckie
583.8 #187 9:21AM
If the thought of it makes you uncomfortable and anxious, don't go. You will be on edge the whole time and would not be enjoying yourself. - Lelundrial
339.6 #430 9:23AM
I'm sure that your daughter would be pleased if you went. It shouldn't be too hard to play nice at the happiest place on earth. - Nov181928
39.1 #4015 9:23AM
I know it might be hard and more than a little awkward, but part of your journey as parents will be to set aside differences for the sake of your child so spending a day at Disneyland with your daughter on her birthday sounds like a good way to show that you are a bigger person and can do that. - MoonWillow
367.4 #377 9:25AM
Go, enjoy her bday. No matter how much he may attempt to push your buttons, do not let it get to you. It's your daughter's day! Enjoy! - NurseJennJillO
307.5 #572 9:25AM
Without knowing your situation it is hard to say. I would not do it if you think there would be any friction going on. This would leave a long lasting impression on your daughter. Could even ruin her Disney experience. If you can make this a special day for her, then go for it. - MyPark
943.6 #91 9:27AM
If you two can remain friends throughout your daughters life I believe it is best for all. My ex and I are friends and it makes for better communication. I think your daughter would love to share the day with both of you. But if you think your not going to feel comfortable with it you could always take her on another day to celebrate with just the two of you. I had to do that many times. - disneygal
365.1 #380 9:35AM
Just wanted to thank you all for your awesome advice already! I think I may suck it up and go for her. I would hate myself if I missed her birthday. And my goal is for us to be friends in the end he is just making it hard! But again thank you MW family you rock!! - vdubmomma
204.4 #1563 9:35AM
Keep us posted- maybe have assemble a MW support group for those moments that may be hard. - MoonWillow 367.4 #377 9:38AM
Let her enjoy the day with her Dad. You have plenty of chances to take her and maybe this will be a good thing on future trips with all three of you. - DznyFan4ever
371.8 #370 9:38AM
I would go and just make the day all about her. - 1derland
67.8 #3442 9:40AM
I think you should go, if you and your ex can agree to try and get along for her for the day. Also I would give her a little daddy daughter time. Maybe they have lunch or dinner together without you. That way you get to share in her birthday. But they get a little special time as well - Pixarprincess
531.4 #214 9:59AM
I would do it for your daughter. Put your feelings aside for one day and enjoy spending her 2nd birthday with her after all she only turns 2 once. Have fun and enjoy - MickeyMousefanatic
160.4 #2149 10:05AM
If the divorce wasn't due to abuse, and you think you can make it through the day feeling comfortable(b/c if you're not comfortable your daughter will sense that) then I say go ahead and go. Disneyland is a very magical place and I think you can all have a good time, and your daughter would love to have you there. - 619HeatherMouse
221.6 #1336 10:10AM
My parents separated when I was 14, they remained great friends living in two separate households. They were travel buddies, they went everywhere together. Well, they never officially divorced and just 2years ago ended up getting back together. My mom moved in with my dad and they are so happy. Now I'm not saying that you should get back together or will, but remaining friends will be great for your daughter. My husband and his ex wife are not friends at all, they can't stand eachother. It really sucks for my step daughter. I am the one who does the most communicating with his ex because she and I get along just fine. - reinakim
219.5 #1359 10:16AM
I'm divorced with young kids and I know any time my ex & I can spend time with all of us together, the kids really enjoy it. If you two can be together for a fun day for your daughter then do it:) I think it goes a long way to show your daughter that mommy & daddy can be friends. - supertracy
435.6 #284 10:37AM
Id like to add I do not enjoy spending time with him at all but I do it because I see how happy my kids are when we're all together. When he starts in and tries to pick at me I stand up for my self without anger or yelling and then let it go. I think it sets a good example for the kids. - supertracy 435.6 #284 10:43AM
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