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36.2 #4120 (DL Qual #2009)
January 24, 2011 7:33 PM
Hi all. Had a rough day today. My 7 year old's good friend died in a plane crash on Saturday but we just found out today. He's taking it pretty hard. At this age he doesn't understand why his friend won't come back. Hes been crying a lot tonight. It's so sad. I asked him what I could do to make it better, and he said "Take me to ride Mike & Sully again". Absolutely breaks my heart because we are in WA. Any advice on how to cheer him up? I need help.
I have no advice - MrTea lost his best friend to cancer at that age. I will be praying for comfort for your son and his little friends family - Smart.tea
205.4 #1546 7:35PM
Send him down and I will take him to parks... I will sure he Sully 100 times.. - GoofyJoe
1864.1 #41 7:35PM
Oh my that is so sad! I don't have any advice and I don't think he can be cheered up right now. He needs to cry and be sad. I am thinking of your little boy and saying - CravingDisney
150.1 #2289 7:36PM
That is sooo hard! I'm so sorry! Maybe youtube the ride video for him? - Tataandbeyond
74.8 #3333 7:37PM
That's a tough one for sure! I lost a friend when I was about that age, and I have never forgotten her. He will work through it with lots of love and understanding - TinkPen
428.4 #292 7:37PM
Oh my goodness what a tragic thing to hear. My condolences go out to your son and his friend's family. - StephiePooh
572.6 #191 7:38PM
Awww CAWA go to the family that lost their little one! But have you put in Monsters Inc.? - eeyoreNfam
58.5 #3588 7:38PM
I'm so sorry. My brother also lost his friend when he was around this age. His friend drowned. It is very difficult for them to process their grief at this age. I will be praying for all of you, and for wisdom on how to comfort your son. I'm just so sorry. - HiddenMickeys
216.4 #1396 7:38PM
Also send him here I'll take him!!! Hehehe - eeyoreNfam
58.5 #3588 7:39PM
I'm so sorry. Grief is so hard, but particularly hard to see in children. Praying for the family of the boy and yours. - ally
440.3 #4 7:42PM
I'm so sorry! I have no advice to offer, but I'm sending good vibes to you and your son - ladylikesdisney
921.5 #95 7:43PM
Oh yeah. Is Monsters his fav movie? I'd like to send something to your son, it I may? - StephiePooh
572.6 #191 7:44PM
I think I have a video of the ride on my phone txt me your email and I'll send it along, the audio might suck though - Pixarprincess
531.4 #215 7:45PM
Oh my goodness! So sad. Hugs and prayers to your son. - DisneyMama
47.1 #3807 7:46PM
My heart just broke into a thousand pieces. I'm keeping everyone in my prayers - MsNick
55.9 #3631 7:46PM
Nevermind I watched it the quality is terrible. Try YouTube or maybe someone can make a new one for you - Pixarprincess
531.4 #215 7:47PM
Will definitely be praying for you and your little one - Pixarprincess
531.4 #215 7:48PM
You will all be in my prayers. - redrockmickey
35.0 #4165 7:50PM
I'm so sorry to hear that!!! - Missshelly
690.3 #145 7:51PM
Oh geez this is just making me get into a funk. Let him cry, Let him be sad. Let him be angry too. It's ok. When he's calmed down a bit....try this. ask him his favorite story or memory of his pal. Ask him what he would like to do to help their family. Let him have his feelings. Sometimes the good ones get taken away from us way too soon. It hurts. It's gonna hurt. But that's part of the process. I am sorry that this has happened. - Butterlina
1307.4 #61 7:51PM
This is very sad news and I am so sorry but we are all here for you maybe you could pop in the monsters inc. dvd good luck and well wishes - Rob512
755.1 #134 7:51PM
Butter your so awesome!!! - eeyoreNfam
58.5 #3588 7:52PM
Reading this made me cry. - disneyfreakonrampage
5.2 #10132 7:52PM
So sad to hear this, especially at such a young age..my heart goes out to you. - BigD
471.0 #255 7:54PM
I agree with Butterlina he is going to have to let it all out. Very sad he has to go thru that so young. - n.corvello
22.9 #4816 7:55PM
Omg. I have no words for this that's just horrible and so young. - MrsDisney
34.4 #4190 7:55PM
Oh thank you all so much. I hate to admit it, but I really needed this support. The boy's Dad got out alive but it took 41 minutes to pull Jacob out. The doctors said that because the water was so cold if they would have pulled hin out within 25 minutes he may have made it. I can barely handle it, let alone be strong enough for my boys. My 5 year old was petting and kissing my 7 year olds head. So sweet. They are watching Monsters v Aliens right now. - CAWA
36.2 #4120 7:59PM
As a mommy my heart goes out to you son. My heart cries for the family who lost their boy. - Mrs.mouse
420.3 #306 8:01PM
Oh I'm so sorry. I have no words but please know that you all and his friend's family are in my prayers. - LBChica
1500.0 #51 8:03PM
Kids are stromger and smarter than we think. Yes, you wanna shield and protect at all times, but something like this you can't. and It bites. It bites hard. argh. if he needs to act out aggresivley, so be it. If he's needing to hide for a bit, so be it. Do your best to make a safe place for him so he knows he can express his feelings. ah geeeez this is just ripping at me. Be well. - Butterlina
1307.4 #61 8:04PM
@CAWA, time will heal those wounds... Just take it day by day... I still have bad days from the lose of my boy, but each day I get stronger..
Just stay with family and help each other out... - GoofyJoe
1864.1 #41 8:11PM
I'm sorry! Your family and your son's friends family are in my prayers! - indyRocks
343.9 #423 8:15PM
Contact a local hospice they have books and advice on dealing with death and can help you talk to him, or check your local bookstore they should have books for kids that help explain what happened. I'm so sorry this happened to you and your friends family. - epperru
150.4 #2280 8:15PM
Thank you ALL. Your words are so comforting. Goofyjoe, I had no idea you lost your son. I can't even begin to imagine the hell you must be going through. Ok, I need to get off and cuddle with my little men. Tomorrow will be better. Gnight and remember to hug your babies, nieces, nephews, cousins, grandchildren extra hard tonight. - CAWA
36.2 #4120 8:16PM
aww im sorry love =(( send him hugs - ashy_mouse_leyyyy
163.9 #2101 8:18PM
So sad to read this. Maybe his school's guidance counselor can be of support in talking about death. It's a tough thing for anyone, but I can't imagine it at such a young age. - tina
1154.4 #69 8:18PM
My thoughts go out to your son and his friend's family. - MinnieJ
281.8 #719 8:19PM
CAWA take tomorrow off spend the day with both boys (let them play hookie from school) and take them to go see Tangled and maybe even Tron! Let them know you understand and that you are there for them!! Lots of love sweetie for you and those precious boys!!! Hope to see you soon - eeyoreNfam
58.5 #3588 8:19PM
Oh my I am so sorry. - PrincessCinderella
21.0 #4955 8:21PM
When my grandmother died I took my daughter to build a bear and when you put the heart in instead of having her make a wish I had her think of her favorite memory with GG. We also got a mini version to go in the casket. Just an idea it really helped my daughter - MsClaireBear
5.2 #10178 8:21PM
CAWA.......Got your message. You will be fine. He will be fine. something is telling me to have you check with your little mister and ask him if he'd like to do something special for him. Some sort of tribute. Some sort of foundation. It's just coming that way right now. Maybe he'll choose to do nothing. That's fine. He willl get through this. He will be at peace. We're all here for you. - Butterlina
1307.4 #61 8:30PM
I have no words to express my sadness for your son's loss. I know that grief is hard to deal with at any age. I hope that you find a way to help him grieve that brings healing. - VikkiMouse
182.2 #1833 8:31PM
Not sure! All I can do is keep you all in prayer! Good luck & so sad! - BeautyandTheBeast
142.7 #2398 8:33PM
I'm so sorry...is he scared? It's hard enough going through this as an adult I can just imagine for a child. Explain it as a child would understand it because it can be very confusing for him. When my mom passed away my Goddaughter was only 5 and I had to tell her that God called her and asked her for help to find medicine for breast cancer that the doctors couldn't find...she understood that once you get to Heaven you can't come back and that although we were sad because we would never see her we were all very proud of her. - MozPrincess
577.4 #189 8:35PM
Very sorry to hear. I can't imagine losing a little one at such a young age or a friend. Prayers to you and the boys family. Extra hugs and kisses during this time for your son! - brodysmommy
243.6 #1060 8:36PM
I am so sorry your little guy has to experience profound grief at such a young age. Let him cry as much as he needs and allow him to express his feelings. Make sure he feels safe and supported. Try to keep his life simple and predictable. Have him attend whatever ritual his friend's family may have as it will help him bring some closure. If they don't have a memorial service or funeral, have your own private ceremony that acknowledges their friendship. He might regress to an earlier time in his life when he didn't have worries (ie bedwetting, tantrums). Look into grief counseling thru the school or even grief support groups for children thru a hospital or local hospice. Eventually help him create a scrapbook of favorite memories of his friend, maybe using Monster Inc stickers? You and him will get thru this. - Polkadobo
372.1 #370 8:59PM
Im sorry to hear about the loss of a little it is alwas a tragedy my heart goes out to the father I can't imaging a greater loss and for your little guy as well but time will help just be there and listen every thing will come to you God bless and many prays for the father your little guy and you - Ferbalisous
64.5 #3488 9:39PM
When my son is sad and needs a touch of his happy place he watch YouTube of the rides, meeting of characters. It won't take the hurt away but make him happier. - Lovetherat
6.3 #8730 9:47PM
wow. I am so sorry. - ghosthost
316.4 #535 9:58PM
- Stripey
261.6 #899 10:08PM
Poor thing! I'm so sorry! - LillyBelle
77.1 #3314 10:08PM
I am so sorry. You, your son and his friends family are in my prayers. Perhaps try the book "Where are you?" by Laura Olivieri. - chsrkat77
244.0 #1059 10:14PM
Time to talk about how we keep people alive in our memories. Maybe plan to make a donation to a special organization on his friend's behalf for his Birthday or Christmas? - autumnal1
31.9 #4279 10:17PM
Tell him that Coaster personally said hi to him and will ride it with him the next time you are down here. - Coaster
9129.8 #1 10:20PM
I am so sorry. Please know that your son, your family and the family of your son's friend will be in my prayers. - ghostmom28
63.4 #3510 10:32PM
Good morning everyone. I woke up to a barage of MW emails in my inbox. Wow, thank you all for your compassionate words. You truly are a special group. Lots of great advice which I'll go over again when I'm in the right mindset. But for now, I'm going to play hookie today as some of you suggested and cuddle with him all day. Have a wonderful day everyone. - CAWA - CAWA
36.2 #4120 6:37AM
I am so sorry, hugs to you all. - Dumbomom
308.3 #568 6:40AM
Hey, CAWA! I got you msg last night. Sorry, I didn't respond. You txt was cut off half wsy though *LoL* - StephiePooh
572.6 #191 6:55AM
I am so sorry. I also have a eight year old and he had to go through a grieving process about a year and a half ago. We tried to spend as much time together as a family. We still talk about it sometimes but it definitely makes it better just to be together. Sending prayers to WA. - Disneyaddict
200.2 #1625 7:31AM
Prayers for you. - BCC
4640.5 #5 7:57AM
Cawa I am so sorry to hear about your sons loss and both of your pains. Made me cry as I was reading the messages. I am in Seattle and I too have a 7 yr old. I lost my mom when I was 9 and I never had anyone to talk to about losing my mom. Make sure that you are there for him whenever he needs an ear or a hug. I know that I didn't believe my mom was gone, even after holding her ashes at the funeral, I still believed she was alive out there somewhere. Maybe you can tell your son that his friend is there with him in spirit. Best of luck to you and your son. I'll keep you guys in my prayers. - Minnieme79
8.0 #7553 8:09AM
I'm praying for ur sons friend family and your family this is hard an my eyes watered:-( I don't know u personally but if u need anything I'm here! Even if it's a admission ticket to Disneyland for him or I can send him his favorite character toys just lmk! - litswtsmile
161.3 #2134 8:11AM
YOu can also explain to him that his friend is in a better place now, where he can't get hurt anymore. - litswtsmile
161.3 #2134 8:16AM
I'm so sorry. It's such a hard age as the understand somethings but not everything. My thoughts with you and your little boy - dennibowles
55.5 #3638 9:21AM
I'm so sorry...I'm praying for you and your little boy. - LaPetiteSirene
400.5 #333 9:27AM
This conversation is why I so love MW...such an outpouring of love and support. @CAWA I am so sorry for what your son and your family is experiencing. I lost both of my patents over the last four years and there is really little to make it better except lots of hugs and letting him grieve in whatever way he wants. Sending prayers and hugs your way - RocklinMousewife
259.6 #911 9:27AM
Geez I hate this auto correct. Supposted to be "parents" not patents - RocklinMousewife
259.6 #911 9:28AM
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